I’ve been getting all sorts of nudges to write lately but life has been kind of nuts. I am a full time school marm here. It’s been kind of a disaster, honestly. I desperately need to get my kid back in school so that I can stop pretending to be a teacher.
For those of you who don’t know; my son, Gabe, has been recovering from Topical Steroid Addiction for nearly the past two years. There have been many ups and downs. I’ve felt like I was in crisis mode more often than not. I’ve had to be his advocate.
Everything I’ve gone through with him has changed me. Just recently I have re-faced some things that used to rattle me. I was decidedly “un-rattled” and feeling more capable. More centered and less spastic. I was struggling to put my finger on what changed, exactly. I finally realized that is was mostly just maturity. Good old fashioned growing up.
Today I drove my son to a specialist; a pediatric gastroenterologist. My son has come a very long way with his skin. He’s actually looking really great. But he’s been feeling terrible. Every time he tries to eat he feels nauseous. I’m not sure why but I suspect it was caused by all the oral antibiotics and ibuprofen he needed a few months ago. 😦
I pulled all kinds of strings and jumped through hoops to get him into this man’s office. The doctor listened to his symptoms and tried to diagnosis him with a condition that didn’t seem to fit at all. The old me would have been extremely hesitant to speak up at that point. The new me had zero qualms with telling him that I didn’t agree and I wanted testing to come to a definitive diagnosis. The doctor agreed to do an endoscopy and test for everything under the sun.
Driving home, dealing with traffic, I was a bit emotional and hid my tear filled eyes from my son. An old favorite song came on and the presence of God entered the car unexpectedly.
I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t at times feel like Gretel- wandering through a dark forest and looking, begging, hoping for any breadcrumbs that I could find to lead me out. Sometimes we’re so much in the dark we can not see the purpose in it all. There really isn’t any trite platitudes or self-help mantras that can help you when you are really hurting and lost. When you’re looking for breadcrumbs and getting rocks and dirt.
This isn’t a pep talk message. It just this- the hurting, the sorrow, the struggle is real. It can’t be glossed over and I promise you- it will not be overlooked. He feels our pain, He bottles our tears. He loves us even though we can’t always see it or feel it.
“He was despised and rejected by men,
A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.
And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him;
He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.
Surely He has borne our griefs
And carried our sorrows;
Yet we esteemed Him stricken,
Smitten by God, and afflicted.
But He was wounded for our transgressions,
He was bruised for our iniquities;
The chastisement for our peace was upon Him,
And by His stripes we are healed.” Isaiah 53:3-5