I quit my job at Starbucks so I could be home full time. Gabe is still struggling daily with TSW. Half the time we have to carry him around. There is loads of laundry to be washed daily. Lots of skin to be vacuumed. And of course he just needs a lot of care and attention.
We are 2 months in to this journey and it has been a huge drain on us- in every way. My husband said at one point, “we are just going to have to give each other extra grace right now.” As sleep deprivation piled up and emotions ran high we have gotten in to petty arguments and snapped at each other…. but more than that we have loved and supported each other through this.
Our 10 year anniversary is this Friday and it will likely pass without much fanfare. We wanted to go on a trip together and I was hoping for some anniversary “bling”…. but that was back before TSW took over our lives.
That’s mostly ok with us. We’ve never really done things conventionally anyways.
The real gift is ten years of happy marriage to the man I love. You get married hoping that that person will love you and stand with you through the good and tough times. You get married so that you have a partner in life, that you never have to face the difficult things alone. You get married hoping to create a family and a lifetime of memories.
I’ve found that in my marriage and that is enough. A quiet sort of romance. An enduring love. Ten years in and I still enjoy his company. He’s still amused at my antics. I still don’t want to let go when we hug.
When I met Tim I was 20 and a single mom to a toddler. I had been dating without much luck. When I met Tim, I knew from the first date, that he was “the one”.
The INFJ in me loved his humility and lack of pretense. That first date I saw the true him. He was authentic, honest and kind. He is truly honest to a fault. He is just a good person. He didn’t hesitate to take on a step son. When we went through a difficult custody battle two years into our marriage he sold his beloved truck (that he had just finished paying off!) so we could hire a good lawyer.
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights…” James 1:17
I know Tim is just that to me; a good and perfect gift.
Honey, I love you and I am so blessed to be your wife. Through good times and bad, there isn’t anyone else I would have by my side.
I know things will get better but until then, I am just happy to have you by my side.
I love you so.