I saw something on social media that made me angry and sad for womankind, a snapshot encapsulating so much of what is wrong with society today. A man had taken a picture of a woman (sleeping) next to him that had started her period. “That sh*t is gross!” And had the gall to upload it to social media. Un-freakin-believable. The disrespect and sense of entitlement involved is what is disgusting.
Woman- we have so much more to lose than men when sex becomes casual and recreational. No strings attached! Um, no. Is that woman feeling liberated right about now? Is she happy with how that situation ended up? I think not.
There is no such thing as casual sex. Birth control fails, often. And who has to go (usually alone) to the abortion ‘doctor’? The woman. Or who gets stuck raising a child with a ‘father’ who’s main concern is dodging child support payments? the woman. Who gets labeled as a slut for same behavior that is seen as an accomplishment for a man? You guessed it.
God designed his plan for sex and marriage to protect women. God’s plan is for a woman to find a good man that is going to marry her, stay committed, treat her well, help her raise the kids, and of course treat her with respect, love and dignity.
The sexual revolution has robbed women of so much. I believe what most women want is that kind of love that lasts a lifetime. But what they are settling for is so much less.
Women- your value is so high that a man should marry you before he gets to enjoy that most intimate act with you. Casual sex cheapens it and turns it from an act of love and trust to a dangerous recreational pastime that looses all it’s specialness.
In the United States there were 19 million new cases of sexually transmitted infections in 2010. (source-Wikipedia) And because of the anatomy of sex women are more vulnerable to contracting infections that men.
So birth control isn’t a surefire way to prevent S.T.D.’s or pregnancy… even with condoms available in virtually every drug or convenience store, 1 in 3 women have had an abortion.
So you play the game (everyone else is doing it, especially the sexy&cool actors on t.v.!) and end up with infections, unplanned pregnancies, a broken heart, and possibly even publicly humiliated. Liberated? No thanks.
Look at Kanye West and Amber Rose. He publicly stated, “I had to take like 30 showers” after breaking up with her. Really? How is that ok? It goes to show, again, that the so called liberating of women has in reality stripped them of honor and dignity (along with their clothes!).
Women- we have a valid need for the love of a man. And God has provided a way for that need to be met in the most healthy (physically, emotionally, spiritually) way in marriage.
Hold out. Don’t settle. Culture has been lying to us and it is time we started fighting back. Don’t waste your time on a guy that isn’t interested in commitment. Have high standards. I believe when women start valuing themselves highly and setting the bar high, men will respond.
God’s design for womanhood-
“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” Proverbs 31:25