This week in the news there has been a lot of moral furor over the tragic death of Josh Alcorn. Josh was a depressed teen that killed himself when he stepped in front of a truck. By all accounts, he had good parents that had put him in therapy and gotten him medication for his depression. So why the moral outrage? The mother, who gave birth to her son, outrageously refused to get her P.C. terminology in line with the new moral majority by referring to her child (who by all accounts possessed the XY chromosome) as a ‘she’ or her ‘daughter’. She had the audacity to refer to her child as ‘a good boy’. The outrage… Worst of all the parents are narrow-minded, bigoted Christians.
It has become the new hip way to show how progressive and enlightened you are… to deny reality. The sad truth is that this was a tragedy. These parents lost their child. Now they are being demonized. The P.C. patrol is petitioning to ban any sort of gender-related therapy. You know, that awfully repressive idea that you could help a confused and troubled person better identify with their gender. Let’s just call kids ‘it’ or ‘purple penguins’ until they decide what they want to identify as. (if you can’t tell I am rolling my eyes) Let’s ban pink and blue clothes for babies while we are it. Shame on parents for trying to force a gender identity on their child.
Josh said himself in his suicide note, ” Either I live the rest of my life as a lonely man who wishes he were a woman or I live my life as a lonelier woman who hates herself. There’s no winning.” I’m not saying there is an easy solution. I know a lot of teens do commit suicide for various reasons. The hormones, stress, immature brain functioning, lack of perspective, lack of peer acceptance, impulsivity all contributes. This boy was obviously very depressed. Maybe he would have been depressed even if he didn’t have gender-identity issues. Maybe he ultimately just had a chemical imbalance in his brain.
There is no easy solution because so many who do go on to ‘transition’ to their ideal gender continue to struggle. “Persons with transsexualism, after sex reassignment, have considerably higher risks for mortality, suicidal behaviour, and psychiatric morbidity than the general population. Our findings suggest that sex reassignment, although alleviating gender dysphoria, may not suffice as treatment for transsexualism, and should inspire improved psychiatric and somatic care after sex reassignment for this patient group.” Dhejne C, Lichtenstein P, Boman M, Johansson ALV, Långström N, et al. (2011) Long-Term Follow-Up of Transsexual Persons Undergoing Sex Reassignment Surgery: Cohort Study in Sweden. PLoS ONE 6(2): e16885. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0016885
“Research from the US and Holland suggests that up to a fifth of patients regret changing sex. A 1998 review by the Research and Development Directorate of the NHS Executive found attempted suicide rates of up to 18% noted in some medical studies of gender reassignment.”
So, obviously there was just no easy solution for this tragic situation. Besides; is it really a good idea to let teens make huge lifelong decisions like that? In 5 years they could feel completely differently. I went through a gothic stage as a teen. Now I’m more into rocking blonde hair & pink clothes. Thank goodness I didn’t get a huge gothic tattoo at 16.
Let’s all try be to be more compassionate and understanding without conforming to the P.C. police, sacrificing our freedom of speech, or just abandoning plain common sense.